Hey there fellow Badass,
Today I want to talk about self-worth. Your self-worth is not about what you look like, what clothes you wear, the car you drive or house you live in, it’s about who you are as a person. Your strength’s, qualities, values, beliefs and personality, all the things that make up unique, amazing badass you!
So why is it that so many of us self-hate on a daily basis, we belittle, undermine and treat ourselves horrifically because we’ve somehow convinced ourselves that we don’t deserve to feel good. We become stuck in a cycle of self-hate and begin to believe that its normal to treat ourselves like crap.
Well, no more I say!
Today is the day you make a commitment to yourself to stop the self-hate and instead, start to embrace your amazing qualities, flaws, strengths and weaknesses. Below are 5 super simple ways you can begin to stop the self-hate and kickstart start your journey to rediscovering your confidence and self-worth again.
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1. Be Proud
No matter if you have stretch marks, saggy skin, wrinkles, cellulite or any other imperfection you need to learn to love every inch of yourself. Now I know this one is hard. I have stretch marks, cellulite, scars from surgery and learning to accept them was far from easy.
However I choose to look at them as my battle scars, these imperfections are often a result of something be it weight loss, babies, living a full life, whatever it may be, each has had a hand in shaping the woman you are today. For me, they represent the things I’ve gained (my children) and fought (endometriosis) something I would never change. Every wobble and scar is part of you and you are a unique wonderful woman. Be proud of every inch of yourself because you’re beautiful.
2. Change Your Thoughts
I’ve spoken before about negativity and how we are programmed in this day and age to be negative no matter what, to be honest, at times it can feel as if the society we live in has been built on a foundation of negativity. To help change this negativity cycle, you need to train your minds to think positive.
The best way to do this quickly is to become aware of your thoughts so that you can begin to change those negative ones. For one day I want you to keep a written log of every negative thought you have. That means every time you think negatively about yourself, someone else or a situation, I want you to write it down.
At the end of the day review what you have written, are you surprised by the amount of negative thoughts you have on one day? Now you are aware, its time to change them. This means when the thought comes in, change it to something positive. So for example, if the thought of exercise makes you want to put your head under a pillow and cry, the negative thought being ‘its to hard’ or ‘whats the point’ change that thought to ‘I exercise to be strong and healthy’ or ‘I exercise because it makes me feel great’
I guarantee that after a week of increased positive thinking, your life will begin to feel some much happier!
3. Accept Compliments
One of the hardest things for many of us is learning to accept a compliment. We have become so programmed to self-hate that they never feel genuine or we look for the ulterior motive, believing the compliment is actually in some way a criticism. This week I want you to say thank you for any compliments you receive. Not only will it make you feel good, but you’re also showing respect and gratitude to the person who complimented you by saying thank you. They took time to compliment you, so thank them and accept it, because you deserve it!
4. Show Off Your Shine
We all have a glow that resides within us, often we dull it down hiding it from those around us to avoid being judged. We protect our shine like its a newborn baby. This shine is your true self, the real you that the world wants to see, but you keep pushing down. The thing is, growth comes from within, so its time to stop hiding who you truly are.
I know its scary to finally be you, for years I had built a wall up, coming across as harsh and quite honestly a bit of a bitch at times, it was my default coping setting. The way I saw it, no one could hurt me if I pretended I didn’t care. But that wasn’t the real me and slowly I learnt to stop putting up my bitch wall and show my vulnerable side. Turns out being kind and vulnerable actually made me a much stronger and a better person!
So I challenge you to show the world your true, badass self, be true to who you are and I guarantee you’ll become a hell of a lot happier.
5.Go On A Date With Yourself
A date with yourself is a set time you set aside to love unique, badass you. You do something that makes you feel great, that fills your cup and lights you up. For example; it might be a manicure, pedicure, fake tan, bubble bath, washing your hair, having a face mask, getting a massage, reading a book or pampering yourself with special perfume and some nice underwear. Whatever it may be that makes you feel good, just embrace it and enjoy!
You see by taking the time to do something especially for you; you not only strengthen that self-love muscle, you’re also supporting yourself to become better equipped to help others, great if you’re a busy mamma. After all, self-care isn’t selfish, it’s actually the most selfless thing you can do!
I hope you’ve found this post helpful, if so then please share this post (using the buttons below) with other strong, fabulous women in your life and together we can learn to stop the self-hate and become our true badass selves!
Never stop being you,
PS: Self-hate isn’t your birthright, self-worth, love and compassion is, so choose to give yourself that gift, you deserve it xx