Why I still have self doubt
Hey Lovely Lady,
This week I wanted to get real with you & talk about something that affects every single woman I know…self doubt.
You see self doubt is something we are told we should be able to conquer. I feel like society expects that because we are seen as strong, independent women with careers, families & an appreciation of good coffee, we should have all our shit together. That by saying some affirmations, losing 10lbs, finding that ‘perfect’ relationship & drinking liquid kale for breakfast we will lose all aspects of self doubt & feel amazing 100% of the time.
Well lovely I’m here to call bullshit on that & tell you that it’s ok to experience moments of self doubt.
I want you to ask yourself a question, have you ever had one of those days where you just feel like shite? You know, one of those days where it doesn’t matter what you do, who your with or what others say, you just can’t shake that sucky feeling of feeling ‘off’. Those feelings of self doubt & hate start to creep in & you find yourself beginning to lack confidence & lose your belief in just how awesome you really are.
It’s ok, your not the only one. I do too.
You see, even though my job as a nurse is to help people improve their mental health & my mission, through this site & my books, is to empower & inspire women to be happy simply by being themselves. Sometimes I feel like shit. I find myself plagued by self doubt. I hate myself & my old crappy fears come rushing to the surface, eager to remind me of just how crap I really am.
In my moments of rational thinking, I identify where a lot of these bullshit negative thoughts come from.
For years I was told I wasn’t good enough by my ex step mother. That I was greedy, stupid, ugly, fat. You name it, I was it & then she’d beat me. Worse thing about the whole sorry situation was I loved her. I would have done anything to make her happy. I now know that I was stuck in the domestic violence cycle. Seeking approval & love to feel validated & wanted.
Which is why it will probably come as no surprise to you to discover that just a few years ago I was a hot ass mess. I was plagued by self hate, doubt & had zero confidence. It took me a lot of trial & error to discover how to be happy just by being me, but I did it & that’s now what I love to teach other women.
Yet, even though I figured my shit out, I still have off days. Days my rational mind doesn’t kick in & I’m plagued by self doubt & the inevitable bad mood for no reason. Go figure.
Which is why I felt called to share this with you, because none of us are perfect. There is no woman on this planet that doesn’t experience moments of self doubt, hate, anger or guilt. No matter how qualified, enlightened or spiritual they are. Even if on the outside they look like they have their shit together.
And that’s ok
You see transformation & personal growth are a continual journey. We are constantly learning & growing and that’s the way it should be.
- We can always learn to love ourselves more
- We can always learn to be more confident
- We can always learn to stop those negative thoughts & kick life’s ass
- We can always improve on what we already know, because we never stop learning & growing, right up until the day we die.
So next time your having a moment of self doubt, remember that it’s perfectly ok. In fact, I’m giving you a permission slip to self doubt. Because what’s important is your awareness of these ‘shadow parts’ of your mind & your acceptance of yourself despite them.
What really matters, is how you deal with those moments of self doubt. The choice's you make & how you use this to grow.Click To Tweet
I’ll be sharing a post all about your shadow self & how it can actually make you stronger very soon, so keep a look out for it. I know your going to love it.
Until then, please share this post with other fierce, fabulous women in your life & remind them it’s ok not to be perfect. That its normal to have moments of self doubt & that It’s 120% ok to be themselves. In fact its more than ok, its f#%king downright magical. Until then,
Never stop being you,
PS: My first book is coming!!!!!! I’m so excited to share this with you, look out for the update in the next few weeks!!! 🙂