This week I wanted to get real with you and talk about something that affects every single woman I know… self-doubt and put forward why I believe its ok to have self-doubt.
You see self-doubt is something we are told we should be able to conquer. I feel like society expects that because we are seen as strong, independent women with careers, families and an appreciation of good coffee, we should have all our shit together. That by saying some affirmations, losing 10lbs, finding that ‘perfect’ relationship and drinking liquid kale for breakfast we will lose all aspects of self-doubt and feel amazing 100% of the time.
I’m here to call bullshit on that and tell you that it’s ok to experience moments of self-doubt
I want you to ask yourself a question, have you ever had one of those days where you just feel like shite? You know, one of those days where it doesn’t matter what you do, who you’re with or what others say, you just can’t shake that sucky feeling of feeling ‘off’. Those feelings of self-doubt and hate start to creep in and you find yourself beginning to lack confidence and lose your belief in just how awesome you really are.
It’s ok, your not the only one. I do too.
You see, even though my job as a nurse is to help people improve their mental health & my mission, through this site & my books, is to empower & inspire women to be happy simply by being themselves. Sometimes I feel like shit. I find myself plagued by self-doubt. I hate myself & my old crappy fears come rushing to the surface, eager to remind me of just how crap I really am.
In my moments of rational thinking, I identify where a lot of these bullshit negative thoughts come from.
For years I was told I wasn’t good enough by my ex-stepmother. That I was greedy, stupid, ugly, fat. You name it, I was it and then she’d beat me. The worst thing about the whole sorry situation was that I loved her. I would have done anything to make her happy. I now know that I was stuck in the domestic violence cycle, seeking approval and love to feel validated and wanted.
Which is why it will probably come as no surprise to you to discover that just a few years ago I was a hot ass mess. I was plagued by self-hate, doubt and had zero confidence. It took me a lot of trial and error to discover how to be happy just by being me, but I did it and now what I love to teach other badass women, just like you.
Yet, even though I figured my shit out, I still have off days. Days my rational mind doesn’t kick in and I’m plagued by self-doubt & the inevitable bad mood for no reason. Go figure.
Which is why I felt called to share this with you because none of us are perfect. There is not one single woman on this planet that doesn’t experience moments self-doubt, hate, anger or guilt. No matter how qualified, enlightened or spiritual they are and even if on the outside they look like they have their shit together.
And that’s ok
You see transformation & personal growth are a continual journey. We are constantly learning and growing and that’s the way it should be.
- We can always learn to love ourselves more
- We can always learn to be more confident
- We can always learn to stop those negative thoughts and kick life’s ass
- We can always improve on what we already know, because we never stop learning and growing, right up until the day we die.
So next time your having a moment of self doubt, remember that it’s perfectly ok. In fact, I’m giving you a permission slip to self doubt. Because what’s important is your awareness of these ‘shadow parts’ of your mind and your acceptance of yourself despite them.
What really matters, is how you deal with those moments of self doubt. The choice's you make & how you use this to grow.Click To Tweet
I’d love if you could share this post with other beautiful badass women in your life and remind them it’s ok not to be perfect. That its normal to have moments of self-doubt and that It’s 120% ok to be themselves. In fact its more than ok, its f#%king downright magical. Until then,
Never stop being you,
PS: It’s ok to doubt, what matters is how you choose to process that doubt. Choose to let it go and move forward because life’s too short to be anything other than a strong badass with a mighty fine good ass xx