Hey There Busy Woman,
Can I ask you a question, what is it that would transform your life? What would finally bring you that happiness and joy you crave so much?
Perhaps you’ve been focusing on the one thing that will finally bring you happiness, that one thing that will finally make all the pieces fall into place.
Maybe its once you lose some weight, start exercising, get the new job, attract that great relationship or improve the one you’re in.
Maybe its once you have that dream holiday, have a baby or start your own business.
I want to let you in on a little secret, transformation doesn’t come from any of those things.
It doesn’t come from losing 10lbs or meeting mr right, it doesn’t come from earning 6 figures or traveling the world. Sure those things are great, and there’s no denying that each will provide temporary fulfilment, but real, lasting transformation, that comes from within.
It comes from loving yourself, mastering those bullshit negative thoughts and creating an amazing life you truly love.
How do I know this?
Because I spent years trying to transform my life and failing miserably. After leaving my abusive marriage, I spent years continually seeking external sources for my happiness; friends, sex, alcohol, dieting, exercise, food binges, relationships, climbing the career ladder, anything to find fulfilment, to finally feel happy.
I never found it. In fact all I did was temporarily fill that void for a short time, before feeling miserable again. I became a master at putting on a happy face and pretending I lived an amazing life.
The truth, my friends weren’t real friends, my healthy lifestyle was a constant binge cycle of eat well with others ,then binge on chocolate, vodka and takeout when I was alone. My relationships were full of highs and lows because I let others treat me like crap, all because I just wanted to feel loved. I wanted to feel wanted. I hated my job and most of all, I hated myself.
I finally sorted my shit and transformed my life, but only once I stopped looking outside of myself for answers. I stopped expecting happiness to come from others and started to look within.
I know how hard it can be, how easy it is to stay focused on those external sources of happiness. Please let me reassure you that you’re not alone on your journey and you will find that happiness you so desperately crave. #yougotthis
I want to share with you 3 ways you can start to transform your life today
1.Start Loving Yourself
Can we be honest with each other for a second? Do you really love yourself? I mean like head over heels, wake up and feel filled with love when you look in the mirror type of love yourself? My moneys on no.
I get it, I hated myself, like seriously, I hated my body, my voice, my hair, the way I looked and the thoughts I had. I was my own worst enemy. Learning to love myself was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do. But I did it. I learnt to accept my flaws, my stretch marks, my dodgy accent, even my autoimmune diseases. I forgave myself for the endless days of self hate (which even now, still pops up every so often!) and embraced loving myself.
Start by simply looking in a mirror and telling yourself each day; I love you and I accept you. That’s it. So simple yet, really bloody hard when you hate yourself. Commit to doing this for 30 days and I promise it will trigger a huge shift in how you feel about yourself.
2. Be Grateful
It ridiculously easy to get stuck focusing on everything we don’t have, constantly wishing, hoping and dreaming, that things will be different once we have x,y or z (we’re back to that seeking happiness from external sources thing I mentioned before!)
That’s why its vital that we take at least 1 minute each day to be grateful for what we have.
I started my gratitude practice a few years ago and now do it everyday. The easiest way to practice gratitude is to just list three things each day that your grateful for. You can do it in the morning, at night, with your partner, kids, colleagues. write it down or say it out loud, you can even write it in your shower steam. It doesn’t matter how you do it, what matters is you start making gratitude a daily part of your day. You can read more about gratitude and why I love it so much here.
3. Choose Love Over Fear
Let’s be honest, at times we can be a bunch of bitchy, whiny women. We get caught up on the negativity train, complaining, gossiping and moaning about anything and everything. It’s little wonder so many of us end up depressed, riddled with anxiety and feeling like crap.
It’s easier said than done to break the habit of negativity. I still have days I get caught up in that negative bullshit nonsense, but every time I catch myself being a prize bitch, I ask myself two questions; why and where is this emotion coming from? Is it because I’m scared, worried, angry, guilty, fuelled by hate, want to fit in or even just plain bored.
Most of the time I can identify whats really going on, and give my self a quick pep talk to choose love instead. I remind myself, I’m not that woman anymore, the bitch Naomi is not who I want to be, and I remind myself to choose love over fear.
There you have it 3 simple, yet super effective ways you can start transforming your life today. When used every day, these little daily actions will help you to shift your energetic vibration from one that’s negative to one that’s filled with positivity, ensuring you attract happiness and positivity into your life.
If your serious about transforming your life, then I have a challenge for you.
I challenge you over the next 30 days to practice the 3 steps above each day. I’ve even created a free 30 day accountability tracker you can download it here to keep you motivated and accountable.
Remember your transformation, your happiness, it comes from within you. So make the commitment today, the commitment to you.
Love & Gratitude,
PS: Don’t forget to get your free challenge calendar here & transform your life in just 30 days!
PPS: Looking to transform your life and create a life you truly love? Then I’d love to work with you! You can find out more here.
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